Respect is a 7 letter word but it takes years to build it
for someone. Respect is less about saying
and more about doing.
There is an advertisement which many may have seen on
television about “Bournville Chocolate”
which had a tagline “You don’t buy a bournville, you earn it”. In the same way you don’t buy respect
but it has to be earned. There may be very few people who we may actually
respect from the heart.
They would have really done something for us for years or
when required which may have made us
to respect them the way we do.
I can think of 7 things which everyone may have experienced
which make them respect others.
Let’s look at the 7 aspects of respect in details.
When someone listens to you, they are actually giving you
their time; something which they can’t get
back but they respect you and the relationship which makes them give you time
to listen. Sometimes
all we want is a listening ear where we can vent out how we feel. Even if we
don’t get any advice back,
it just makes us feel light. This time they give us makes us automatically
Not everyone has the power to understand unspoken words. It
has to be either a mother, a face reader
or someone who understands you at a deep level. If someone can understand you
looking at your face,
expressions or the voice of your tone then you have to thank god for giving you
someone like that. I
guess that calls for respect to GOD and also to the person who can understand
you like that.
Helping in Need
They say a friend in need is a friend indeed but it may not
necessarily be a friend. Sometimes you can
get help from anywhere when least expected. However, you have to ask for help
sometimes. It’s like
if you are thirsty then you have to ask for water. The water won’t come to you.
In times of need when
someone helps you, then the respect flows automatically for that person.
Making adjustments for you is another thing that makes you
respect someone. It takes efforts to make
adjustments as someone has to disturb or rework their schedule to accommodate
you. This quality
cannot be found in all as many people feel that it’s me before you. Some people
feel that it is lack of
self respect to always keep making adjustments. However if there is true love
and respect then making
adjustments is not difficult. This quality of making adjustment for us makes us
respect them all the more.
Motivating someone is another thing not everyone can do. I
have been motivated in the past by
quite a few people to do writing which I love and I respect them a lot. Just
when I feel like giving
up on writing they are around giving me respect by saying that you write very
well and should keep
going. That’s when I sit right up and get to the task of writing once again. I
truly respect such people.
Loving us unconditionally
Buddha once told that “Expectations in the cause of all
sorrows”. Loving people unconditionally can
currently be done by only 3 i.e. GOD, Mother and Father. Anyone else doing this
Loving unconditionally requires the person to overlook the weakness and
appreciate the strengths.
Everyone would have great respect for their parents and so do I. GOD also
deserves respect for
giving us 2 emotionally powerful people to us on earth.
When a youth starts to enter the college or work life,
having a mentor makes a world of a difference.
Mentors can be in form of Parents, Teachers, Coaches, Friends, Bosses and
anyone else who can guide
us in the right direction. The mentor may sometimes assign us tasks which may
be difficult for us and
make us scared but the mentor has faith in our potential. Once we master the
task, we start to grow
and create a life we want. The mentors may not ask for anything but they do
deserve a lot of respect
and I certainly respect them for where I stand today.
Some others to
Garbage Man – Respect for collecting the garbage
and keeping the society clean
Watchman – Respect for guarding our society
Maids/Servants – Respect for helping us
finishing extra work
These things make me really respect people.
What makes you respect people? Do share your views